Have you ever WONDERED what the ratio of males to females were when the spirit children of our Heaven Father were created? Does it really matter? God knows the end from the beginning. Can't He carefully control the number of males created to exactly correspond to allow the same number whom He foresees will be worthy of Eternal Life to match an equal number of females who will also qualify for Eternal Life? Or is the bringing about of life in the universe governed by immutable patterns and laws? This is something I can only WONDER about, but it matters to me because of how it influences opportunities for marriage and family life both here and in the hereafter.
We just had a discussion on what we can learn about the figurative account of the creation of Adam and Eve from the pattern established in the story of the creation of the earth and from the ancient symbol of the yin yang (please refer to The Creation of Eve). Like fragments of a shattered mirror, it appears that portions of truth deposit themselves in every culture and tradition. For instance, in the Islamic Quran (7:190) it says: "He it is Who has created you from a single soul and made therefrom its mate that he might find comfort in her." If this were reflective of a true pattern, ratios of females to males created could never be manipulated. They would have to be brought into being in the same, uniform way; a female for every male.
We do not have much authoritative doctrine to lay a foundation on this subject. But there is one promising lead. It was offered by one of the first children born into the restored Church, Mosiah Lyman Hancock. He was the son of Levi Ward Hancock, a member of the First Council of the Seventy for 47 years. Mosiah, himself, was ordained a Seventy in 1852, at the age of 18. He was a student of "Professor" Orson Pratt, and also served several missions for the Church. His good memory and personal record of events have been of valuable historical importance. For example, Joseph Smith's oft-quoted speech where he rolled his responsibility onto the shoulders of the Twelve was to Mosiah's record-keeping credit. He left in his unpublished life story two records of a significant vision, that he said were shown to him when he was 21 years of age. The vision concerns man's premortal life. His writings, now published as The Mosiah Hancock Journal, include the vision in it entirety as an appendix. (Crowther, 1967)
Mosiah explained that in the vision the Savior spoke with him and said:
He goes on in his observation of these "pairs" of spirit children: "Oh, the respect they seemed to entertain for each other as they marched forth. The right elbow of the female seemed to touch the left elbow of the male. I should judge the males, generally to be about six feet two inches in height, and the females some three or four inches less. Their forms seemed as perfect as a new born infant..."
The simple idea encapsulated in his vision has far-reaching implications if it is true. The idea that, in the beginning, we all had a co-creation. Whether the male and female of each creation would have been designed to remain together is a matter of even further speculation. We believe in choice - in "agency." Would God, having arranged us in pairs, have violated that agency? We know that He will not violate our wills. So, then, let's think about it further, taking into account some actual authoritative statements.
First is something that Brigham Young said came from the prophet Joseph Smith, who appeared to him in a dream one night. He impressed upon President Young, "Be sure to tell the people to keep the Spirit of the Lord; and if they will, they will find themselves just as they were organized by our Father in Heaven before they came into the world. Our Father in Heaven organized the human family, but they are all disorganized and in great confusion." The fact that it says our Father in Heaven organized us before we came here could mean a lot of things. It could refer to family units having been grouped together and given "approval" by His priesthood power. But I WONDER if it might, indeed, indicate that our Father placed us with another spirit of the opposite sex, who was designed to be our companion, should we choose and should we live worthy of that companionship.
But what about President Spencer W. Kimball's insistence that "soul mates are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price." (Kimball, 1976) I completely agree with them both and it is because of what I believe probably happened in between the organizing of the Father's children (in perfect wisdom and order) and the conditions we find ourselves in today, as well as in President Kimball's day.
What happened to throw us so out of order? Why was it so imperative for Brigham Young to give the Saints that message from beyond the veil about staying close to the Spirit for the sake of a more perfect organization of the human family?
What say ye?
Life Everlasting, A Definitive Study of Life After Death, Duane S. Crowther, 1967, pgs. 93-98
Marriage and Divorce, Spencer W. Kimball, 7 September 1976, Brigham Young University Devotional